Pounding the Streets and Hiding in Terror: What We Can Do  
By Leona Stucky  |  March 18, 2019

Swarming with young people, the streets took on colors of anger and despair, with sounds and signs clamoring for an end to the Vietnam war, and an end to the draft. Young men and women demanded a change to the law that armed young men and trapped them into terror that would haunt many of them for the rest of their lives. 

As a baby boomer, these scenes added meaning to my college days. Non-violence was one of my ideals. Appalled that our country would trap young men into violent and terrorizing adventures, I pounded the streets with my activist friends, never once wondering why no one was pounding the streets for me. 

With my child in tow, I tried to escape the violence and terror that trapped me.  The kind where you have already been beaten many times, where the killer knows your name, your family, your location, your children, your vulnerabilities, your desires, your habits and schedules. 

Ashamed to be trapped, I didn’t talk to college kids about it. I figured I was somehow at fault. Anyone whose husband would kill them, was considered a part of the problem. I didn’t understand then that my brushes with injury and death would haunt me for the rest of my life. Nor did I have a clue that thousands upon thousands of women and children lived in fear and that too many would be killed by their abuser. There were no safe houses and few voices decrying the violence against women - the unnoticed and little published war on women, at home under our own noses. Women were left to cope with formidable odds without assistance, while they were accused and shamed. 

During our last two wars, Afghanistan and Iraq, almost twice as many US women died from intimate partner violence as US troops died in these wars. I’ve written a memoir about my years of terror, The Fog of Faith: Surviving My Impotent God. Though the book is riveting, it will not stop others from facing similar tragedies. So, I’ve taken the next step by joining a small, non-profit film company, Healing Voices – Personal Stories, that educates people about domestic violence using their own award-winning short documentaries, which you may view and use free of charge at www.hv-ps.org

Stopping this largely unnoticed killing of women is a job for all of us. Healing Voices – Personal Stories has an action initiative. Join us to change the fate of women and children who are trapped. Your voice and your boots on the ground are necessary. 

A National Day of Action Against Domestic Violence
We are forming teams all around the country to plan their local event for the National Day of Action Against Domestic Violence, scheduled for October 5, 2019. Communities are asked to use their own creative ideas to organize an event that brings together local talent and community organizations. 

As part of the event we are asking for a staged “Die In” as a visual demonstration of the shocking number of women’s deaths due to domestic violence in the United States. Women and men will have their own roles in the event. The “Die In” should be filmed, possibly by film students, people with cell phones, or by film professionals. 

These brief videos will be collected by Healing Voices – Personal Stories, who will make a short documentary and will seek out wide channels of distribution.  For years to come, the documentary will herald a turning point away from intimate partner violence. 

We urge you to go to https://dvdayofaction.org. Please sign up as persons wanting to learn more about forming a leadership team in your community. We will assist you. 

For more information, our next conference call is March 8, 4:00 Eastern Time.  Sign up for that one or the next call, not yet scheduled, at https://dvdayofaction.org/phone-call-sign-up

Committee for Day of Action Against Domestic Violence

Regina Ress
JoAnne Tucker 
Leona Stucky 


Leona Stucky is the author of The Fog of Faith: Surviving My Impotent God. She’s been a psychotherapist for more than 35 years, a Diplomate in AAPC, and a UU community minister. She can be contacted at LeonaStucky.com.
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